Rebeka Bergin

7 Ways to Improve Your Self-Confidence

7 ways to improve your self-confidence with a smiley face

Going into 2017 I've been thinking about goals I want to achieve throughout the year. So I wrote down a list in the notes section of my diary which included the usual; lose weight, post more often on my blog, eat healthily, exercise more, but this time around I've added a more important goal to my list. I'm going to improve on my self-confidence.

Like almost everyone, I have days where I feel great. I get things done, I like what I see in the mirror, I decide to make healthy choices and generally feel happy. However I also have bad days where I feel awful about myself. I feel like I'm not good at anything and will never achieve anything, I hate what I see in the mirror, I make unhealthy choices and I waste the days thinking about what others think of me or why I'm so useless. I feel that these days occur more often than my good days and my main goal for 2017 is to change this.

I am so tired of feeling bad about myself. I know so many feel the same too. We should feel good about ourselves everyday. We should feel strong, confident, know our worth and realise how awesome we are.

So here are 7 ways to improve your self-confidence for the new year.

Write down 3 things that make you awesome

Sometimes we get so caught up in attacking ourselves that we forget to take a minute to notice the things that make us awesome. It could be anything. You could be an amazing artist. Maybe you're a baking queen like Mary Berry, or you're simply a kind person that has put a smile on someone's face. No matter who you are, there will be something that makes you amazing.

Take a minute every day to write down 3 things that make you awesome on a piece of paper, journal, note book or even a Post-it note. Writing them down can make you stop and think "actually I'm pretty cool".

Surround yourself with positive people

Positivity is contagious and so is negativity. Not everyone is a positive person and you may have a mix of pessimists and optimists in your life, but as mush as you love those 'glass half empty' people, when you're feeling bad about yourself they may not be the best company.

Spend time with people that make you feel good about yourself and force you to smile and laugh. Their confidence and happiness will inevitably rub off on you. Then you can take your new found positivity and rub it off on your loved ones who may be feeling a little down.

Stop comparing yourself to others

We have all been guilty of this at one time or another. I do this constantly and it's definitely a habit I'm going to break in 2017. We constantly compare ourselves to others. Whether it's fellow bloggers who seem to be more successful than we are or that unrealistic idea of being that air-brushed celebrity with the flat tummy, we constantly have this idea in our heads that we should be everything other than what we are.

Stop comparing yourself to others. You are you and that is amazing. All of us have different backgrounds, different qualities and a different story, if we didn't we'd all be the same mindless sheep. Ask yourself who YOU are, embrace this person and the rest will follow.

Learn something new

Knowledge really is power. Learning something new makes me feel really good about myself. It makes me feel clever and confident and like I have more experiences to add to my life.

Read a book on a subject that's always interested you, learn a new language or an instrument. You will gain so much confidence for empowering yourself with knowledge and you never know, you may find something you're really great at!

Set a small goal and achieve it

Sometimes our endless list of goals can become really overwhelming. It can really stress us out to the point where we've written all of these things down on our to-do lists but got very few of them done. This is followed by a feeling of uselessness and a big blow to our confidence.

Set yourself a small, easily reachable goal and achieve it. This could be anything from a 20 minute jog to getting your 5 a day and drinking 8 glasses of water. Acknowledging the fact that you've set a goal, no matter how small, and reached it can really boost your confidence in yourself and encourage you to reach the rest of your goals too.

Take pride in your appearance

The last thing we want to do when we're feeling down about ourselves is get out of bed and glam ourselves up, but this could be great for boosting your self-confidence. You're actively doing something about it.

Do something nice with your hair, wear your favourite underwear, put on your favourite lippy. Taking care of your appearance can really lift your spirits. If you like the reflection in the mirror and you feel good about yourself, all of that confidence will come flooding to you.

Remember that mistakes are lessons

Too often we give up on something or feel that we can't do something just because we've made a mistake. Mistakes can make us feel like failures and like we're useless when really a mistake is just teaching us a lesson.

Remember that everyone makes mistakes, if we didn't make mistakes we wouldn't know where we were going wrong or go on to improve or fix whatever it is we did wrong. As a kid, you learned that if you touched something that was hot, even if you were told not to, it would hurt because you made the mistake of touching it anyway. Every mistake we make teaches us something so don't give up just because you don't get something right the first time.

Self-confidence is so important because without it, life can be really tough. You have to believe in yourself, love yourself and realise that YOU CAN and that it's ok that you aren't perfect because nobody is. Not even that perfect model on the front page of the magazines. You are you and you have so much to offer to yourself and everyone in your life. Let's make 2017 a year full of self-love and confidence. You are awesome. Never forget it!

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