Rebeka Bergin

How to Show Yourself Love and Appreciation

Love heart carving on a padlock

Self-love is a topic widely discussed nowadays. We’re always coming across quotes on social media encouraging us to give ourselves credit for how great we are, or reminding us of what we can achieve if we believe in ourselves. Sometimes these quotes do inspire and empower us, but when we feel at our lowest, a few words are just not enough.

All of us at some point in our lives have felt useless, ugly, fat, stupid, hopeless and like failures amongst other things, it’s part of being human. Maybe these feelings exist because you were told these things by bullies at school, or you feel unappreciated because your manager at work always seems to think you’re not working hard enough, despite the fact you’re giving 110 percent. There are numerous situations in life that can leave us losing sight of how amazing we are and cause us to fall out of love with ourselves.

All of us deserve love, if not from another then from ourselves, because sometimes we are all that we have. Here are a few things you can do to start embracing how amazing you are and start showing yourself some love and appreciation.

Get in touch with your spiritual side

Whether you are religious or still searching for answers, tuning into your spiritual side can really help you connect with yourself and the world you live in. Exploring your spirituality through meditation, prayer, yoga or whichever method you choose can really help you understand yourself. It can open up your mind to your beliefs, passions and deepest emotions, and really help you appreciate what separates you from everyone else and makes you special.

Look after your body

Many people don’t understand that by simply eating bad food, picking up bad habits such as smoking and alcoholism and not getting enough exercise, they are abusing themselves. You only get one body throughout your whole life, treat it with respect, you deserve it. Nourish it with what it needs, keep it from harm. If you love and respect your body, you’ll be amazed at how it rewards you.

Do something you love

Life is so stressful for most of us. We work, we look after families, we have to keep up with bills and appointments. Many of us never really take the time to do something we love. If you have a spare few minutes in your busy day, or a day off, do something that you really enjoy. Read a book during your lunch break, Knit a scarf while your toddler sleeps, listen to your favourite album while you travel home from work, watch your favourite film, take a dance class, go out with friends, go to the theatre or a concert. We all have something that makes us feel better about ourselves, whatever chance you get, do something you truly enjoy.

Stop comparing yourself to others

We are constantly worried about people being “better” than us. Prettier, smarter, fitter, richer, taller, the list is endless. Embrace who you are because the person you are comparing yourself to is also comparing themself to someone else. Everyone of us is unique. We all have strengths and weaknesses, we all have things we want to change about ourselves or things we actually wouldn’t change. Stop comparing yourself to others and just think about why you are special and how your uniqueness positively impacts the people in your life.

Let go of the past

The past really has a way of creeping up on us and reminding us of things we’ve done that we may not be proud of, or moments in life we’d rather forget. Let it go. We all make mistakes, if we never made mistakes, we’d never learn. Don’t dwell on past experiences that leave you feeling depressed and hopeless, embrace the present. Think about how those experiences have strengthened you, how they have made you who you are. Be proud that they’ve taught you a valuable lesson and that you had the strength to survive whatever life threw at you.

Laugh often

Laughter really is the best medicine and everyone deserves laughter in their lives. You could be having the worst day of your existence, but if something makes you laugh you instantly feel better about your day. You need to laugh sometimes, you deserve to be happy. Seek laughter out. When you feel low, put on your favourite comedy show or call that joker friend or family member that we all have, throw your head back and let all of that laughter out. You will love yourself for it.

Treat yourself

Whether you’re dieting, working towards another goal in life, looking after a family or working demanding hours, we’re all stressed about something. You deserve to be treated. If you’ve reached a weight loss goal, go and have that cheat meal or chocolate bar to celebrate. If you’ve worked hard all month, go and treat yourself to that pair of shoes you’ve had in your sights on pay day, you earned it. Rewarding yourself for your accomplishments really reminds you that you are worth it.

Write down why you love you

People often feel embarrassed to admit that they like something about themselves. No one should feel embarrassed to give themselves credit, it does’t make you arrogant or big headed. It’s healthy to recognise that actually you are good at something or that you do like what you see in the mirror. Every week take a few minutes just to write down why you think you’re amazing. Write down any accomplishments you’re proud of or personal qualities you like about yourself. This is a perfect way to practice self-love and appreciation.

We all deserve to feel good about ourselves. Most of us work so hard to please others that we completely forget that we need to show ourselves a little bit of love too. We’re constantly looking to better our lives and we put ourselves under so much stress in order to do so. The answer is as simple as this— give yourself a break. Practice loving yourself instead of always putting yourself down. Show yourself some much deserved appreciation and your life will automatically be better for it.

How do you show yourself love and appreciation? Please let me know in the comments below!

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